Stress is not always destructive to the body. “In some cases, it even enhances the body’s adaptive abilities, contributes to the development of a creative approach to solving any situations at work,” Vadim Demchenko, business coach company CASE. - Such acute situations include, for example, an after-school project related to promotion, new functionality, minor troubles with colleagues. On a ten-point scale for assessing stress, they are equal to 3-5 points. But if at work you constantly experience problems and pressure, the level of stress approaches 10 points. ” For comparison, we experience about the same tension when we lose a loved one.
If you work in the “high voltage zone”, you can act in two ways: to flee (read - quit) or try to minimize the consequences of this stress. Together with our experts, we sorted out the most common stressful situations that you may encounter at work.
Stressful situation 1. You are entrusted with something that is not in your competence.
Bring coffee instead of a secretary, remove the office space for a cleaner - in some companies such requests may perplex both the chief accountant and the head of the department. But there is another extreme - when a missionary is assigned to an ordinary employee to make a crucial decision for an organization that doesn’t fit into its functionality.
Your actions. First of all, pay attention to the type of orders. They show an attitude towards you. Perhaps by trusting something extremely responsible, the manager sees your potential. And if you are regularly given instructions that are well below your competence, it is worth considering how well you have manifested yourself in your position as a qualified specialist.
“Often people do not perform their tasks, because they are misled: if you fulfill all the instructions of your superiors, this will help you to win his favor and get a promotion,” says Eka Kadagidze, psychologist, gestalt therapist. - Practice shows that they usually promote those who observe professional and personal boundaries. Learn how to designate them in a comfortable way. This does not mean being rude and uncomfortable. ”
For example, if we are talking about assignments below your competence, you can use the phrases: “I think this task is for the secretary / specialist. It would be wiser to use my time on ... ". If you are talking about decisions that are beyond your competence, convey to management that you are ready to perform this task, but do not take responsibility for the result, since this is beyond the scope of your official duties.
And another useful tip. «If you are trying to defend their positions, pay attention to your posture. Proudly straightened shoulders will give confidence to your words, says Vadim Demchenko. - Practice at home posture confident presence. Stand up, the neck stretches upwards, the chin is slightly raised, the chest is open. It is very important not to cross your arms in front of you, not to close your belly: this is your place of power. Knees should be soft, feet completely on the floor. "
Stressful situation 2. You are not accepted by the team
You can indefinitely convince yourself that you come to work to earn money, not to communicate. But if you feel an outcast in a team, then you don’t even want to think about the material condition.
Your actions. “When a person says that the team does not accept him, it’s often not about actions, but about sensations,” says Eka Kadagidze. - For example, you want to gain the favor of all colleagues - in this case it is reasonable to build relationships with each person individually. Trying to get close with colleagues? For a start, take a look at how they interact with each other: maybe excessive closeness in your team is not welcome. ” Perhaps you yourself do not like someone, and you are trying to project your rejection on others. In this case, it is important to understand that this person does not like you, not you him. This approach will get you out of the position of the victim and help you choose the appropriate method of communication, for example, respectfully polite.
And another useful tip. “The barrier between you and the team can be linked to your communication style,” says Svetlana Schneidman, coach, master of NLP, owner of a master’s degree from Weizman University in Israel. “If you want to get close to your colleague, you can tell him some interesting story from your life, and facial expressions will give out fear or arrogance.” Think about what qualities in this person annoy you the most and why. If an even relationship in a team is important to you, train facial expressions in front of a mirror, learn to smile and practice a politely neutral tone of voice.