"That which does not kill me will make me stronger," said Nietzsche. In fact, with these words, he described the mechanism of frustration. Psychologists tend to agree with the great German philosopher: negative emotions that we experience are a prerequisite for the development and growth of personality.

One of the most famous researchers of frustration was the American psychologist Saul Rozentsveig (Saul Rosenzweig, 1907-2004). He defined it as the body's response to insurmountable obstacles to the satisfaction of any vital need. However, many of his contemporaries did not miss the chance to correct the master: this is not just “some kind of reaction”, but a reaction expressed in negative emotions (anger, anxiety, panic, envy, guilt, etc.).

As a rule, the stronger the motive, the brighter the frustration takes place when it is impossible to achieve the goal. For example, if we are late for work or a date, then, stuck in a traffic jam, we experience irritation and anger. The same feelings overwhelm us when we hear the news that the bank, where all our savings were piling up, went bankrupt. However, it is obvious that the degree of indignation in the second case is much higher.

Factors that prevent us from achieving goals and provoke frustration, can be both external and internal. The external are primarily people who have not met expectations, for example, the husband, who has not made a career in business, or a daughter who, after ten years of work, has abandoned the piano. As well as events, for example, a delayed flight, a holiday damaged by bad weather, a traffic jam already mentioned, or a bank force majeure. Internal factors include fear, physical limitations, social norms, inhibitions, and so on.

The main feature of frustration is that it is always a reaction to a situation that has already happened, which cannot be changed at the moment. A simple example: having come out of habit to the store and not finding a favorite yogurt there, a person experiences a flash of frustration and annoyance for a short time. As a rule, a little later, negative emotions disappear, giving way to alternative solutions - to go to another store, go to yogurt tomorrow or for a week, “transfer” to cottage cheese.

In each case, the frustration proceeds differently. Some may take a few minutes to overcome it, others may take several years (although in this case the problem is usually much more serious than the absence of your favorite yogurt in the supermarket or a quarrel with your spouse). Ultimately, how quickly a person overcomes frustration depends on his psycho-type, adaptive abilities, optimism and faith in his own strength.

Modern experts tend to view frustration in a positive way - as synonymous with a slight psychological one, which gives the motive for making changes in existence. It is impossible to completely avoid unpleasant experiences, life is always generous with situations that cause us offense, anger or attacks of aggression. But the strength of each person to increase their immunity to negativity. For this, psychologists,, trainers and authors of books in the style of “help yourself” teach us to recognize signs of frustration, to abstract from it, and also to develop communication skills and improve as a preventive measure. Thus, a person can build up quite powerful psychological armor, which will help not only to relive negative situations, but also to quickly find alternative solutions to the problem. So, according to Nietzsche, to become stronger.

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